Response to "Why Can't a Successful Black Woman Find a Man"

My Boy Duece Duece made a video blog based on ABC Nightline Face-off's "Why Can't a Successful Woman". Here is my take on the forum.

The problems that were mentioned are not only Black problems they are universal. What happens though is that black people are exposed more than our other racial counterparts. The black male (mentioned in the Assassination of the Black Male Image) is depicted as a "brute, beast, animal, and ape" by society. We are degraded in the media (look at the way a black basketball player is described compared to a white player) and we live in a time where the media (to some) is used as the source of truth. Hill Harper truly enlightened the forum with facts and not opinion. I have read "The Conversation" and the issues touched on in his piece of literature has opened my eyes to a lot of things that are going on in the Black Relationship Community. Women should have a certain standard when choosing a man but, do not shun away potential. If a man has the ambition to own a McDonalds while he is currently "flipping burgers", roll with that man. As far as dating outside your race, I believe you can find love in any man/woman but a white man (or woman) cannot understand the history of our people. Its almost like the afflicter trying to sympathize with the afflicted, its not going to happen. I love "Black Love" so I settled down with a black woman because when attempting to date outside my race the scrutiny I received from the woman's family was degrading and I refused to assimilate and lose my identity. A powerful woman is not intimidating to me. I love when a woman holds herself to a certain esteem and not downgrade herself as a "video vixen". If my Wife were to make more money than me, so be it, what's her's is mine and vice versa. This is my take on the forum but do read the "The Conversation" by Hill Harper to get a more in-depth look on this issues discussed.

In My Mind

Hey World,

I had a lot on my mind tonight so I figured I'd blog. So yea this is my last week of school and I'm excited. No more homework due at the end of the week, no more labs, discussions, just no more school!!!! But it's time to chalk up another victory. Thank God. I swear 5 years ago I thought my life at this age would be spent in jail or death!!! But God has a way of turning around things. Foreal though, I've never been so stressed in my life. It seems like soooooooo much is riding on my shoulders. The damn transmission EXPLODED on me on Monday and, I had to shell out $1900 to get it rebuilt. The optimism of that situation is that I have a warranty and the transmission is covered (whew!!!). Having a Wife and 2 kids exacerbates (I know that's such a harsh word) my stress level even more but, honestly I'm learning to turn that into eustress. I trully believe the 6 weeks i was enrolled in that Abnormal Psychology class has helped. There are some days where I feel like exploding like my transmission (great analogy lol) but, between prayer, soft music and CNN, yes CNN I make it through my day. On a business note, I have a few opportunities lined up for me. Met a great smart guy who shares the same ambitions as I do who has 10 years of experience in the field, so it's almost time to develop an action plan to move forward. Twitter and Facebook have skyrocketed my clientele too. I'm coming across things I have never done and I am so loving the challenge. On a personal note (this is where it gets interesting), I am on a serious spiritual and emotional rollercoaster. I'll ride a spiritual wave for about 2 weeks then BAM, I fall right back into a slump. I would disclose what makes me fall but that's between me and the Lord. As far as the emotional instability, one day I feel like I could take over the world then others I feel like everyone is better than I am. If I could ride in the middle of the two I would be straight, kinda like a "humble conqueror". Sidebar: 16 and Pregnant is cracking me up right now (yawns). Well I think I got a few things off of my chest and feel that I could got to bed with a peaceful mind. Gotta get up earlier..I have a 7:10am pickup. Peace till next time

Posted from the corner of "Twin" and "Minded" on my iPhone

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