Why Can't We Keep Love New Over Time

Hey World,

I have a question, why can't we keep love new over time?

I spark this question based on things that happen within my own relationship and in others.

I had a late night convo with a good friend of mine who's relationship is on the "brink of whatever she may say it is", and from our dialog I came up with the aforementioned question.

I have realized- both and in mine and in others relationships- that over time we decrease the passion we have for our significant other. Why is that?? It kind of reminds me when I bought my Xbox 360 a couple of years ago. I couldn't put it down when I first purchased it, but now I hardly ever play it. Is this how we portray our relationships over time? We gather excitement in the beginning, but as time runs its course we lose our thrill.

In certain aspects I see this happening in my own relationship ( I will not mention these things because I believe our issues could be improved upon and fixed). Having this conversation with my good friend who has been in a relationship just as long I have, we both see the comfort in our significant others. When I say comfort I mean the feeling that you have won the person over and no longer have to do the things you once did to steal their heart.

In my friends case, I am finding out that their significant other is getting bored and is "testing the waters" again (even though it has not been admitted), meanwhile having his cake and eating it too. My question is, "What causes this?" Is it that the person gets bored and decides to try something new while holding on to their current relationship just in case things with the new "blow up"?

The real issue is keeping the flame kindled. How do we do this? I have a solution. How about keeping up the same routine from when you first met. Guys, if your massaged her feet after a long day of standing in Victoria Secret's all day, continue to do it even if she changes jobs. Ladies, if you cooked a meal for him and ran his bath water for him, continue to do so. Don't stop!!!

So, I'm going to take my own advice and get my Wife some foot scrub and lotion and give her a good foot massage. Why? There is always another person ready to step in and do it for you. Let's try and keep Love new over time.

Signing off,

Twinminded